「每次都要幫女生付錢...我又不是腦子有洞」約會誰該付錢，老外怎麼說？

（法國-男）

If she wants to pay for me every time, every time? I will call her my mama.
如果她每次都要幫我付錢，每次都付？我會叫她「我娘」

（香港-女）

我會覺得很不好意思！因為畢竟只是約會，所以我會自己付自己的
I’d feel kind of bad, because it’s just a date, so I’d pay for myself.

可是如果他是我男朋友的話
But if he’s my boyfriend.

我會覺得他付沒有關係，可是心裡還是覺得不好意思啊！如果可以自己付，還是會自己付
I’d let him pay, but I would try to pay by myself too.

（俄羅斯-女）

如果男人付錢，我覺得他是個紳士，他很喜歡我
If the guy pays for my meal, I’d think he’s a gentleman who really likes me.

在俄羅斯，男生都會想付錢
In Russia, the men want to pay.

在俄羅斯如果我想出錢，我的男生朋友會覺得我不尊重他們
Even my friends in Russia, if I want to pay, they’ll say ”why don’t you respect me?”

（薩爾瓦多-男1）

我的想法就是，要是我可以付的話我就會付，當然了
If I can afford to pay my date, of course I will.

但是！我還是需要她表現她會付，不要覺得理所當然
But I don’t want her to take this for granted though.

（荷蘭-女）

Before, women were not allowed to work, so we didn’t have money, so we couldn’t pay anyway
在很久以前女人不能工作，所以也不會有賺錢，當然就不能付錢

Though nowadays, we do get to work and we do have money. We should be treated equal, therefore, we should also pay equally
現在社會，女生可以有工作，也有存款了！所以我們可以自己分擔，自己付錢

and we have this famous saying “go Dutch”
我們有世界最有名的荷蘭片語「各自付帳」

meaning that we always pay for ourselves, like going on a date or spending time with friends, having a drink, going to a movie stuff like that.
所以我們都會各付各的！像是約會，或是跟朋友出去喝酒跟看電影都是

（美國-男）

在美國的文化是男生約女生出去就是應該要付錢，因為是你約她出去，那這也是一種禮貌，就是男生就是要負責這個部份
In American culture, if a guy asks a girl out, then he should pay.

希望女生可以體諒一下就是都是男生在出錢，所以如果出去玩不是玩那麼貴的東西
But hope girls can understand that we are not Donald Trump’s sons so, maybe order something with a reasonable price?

那如果不是女朋友的話，去看個電影，一起去吃個晚餐，這個就應該算是個約會！那男生就應該要出錢
But if it’s your girlfriend, when you are on dates with her, you should pay.

但是平常在一起吃午餐，可能各付各的就好了，就不用每次都男生出錢
But you guys are NOT on dates, you guys should go Dutch.

（瓜地馬拉-女）

For example in my country, if a guy asks me out.
在瓜地馬拉，如果男生找我約會

Usually the first date we will split (the bill)
通常第一次我們就會平分

Then the second time, maybe he will invite me, maybe the third time I will invite him so it always depends.
通常第二次約會她會請我！第三次換我請他！不一定

More if we are boyfriend-girlfriend, I’d let him pay more like more times.
如果已經是情侶的話，我會讓他多付幾次

But it’s not like I’ll let him (pay) all the time, I can invite him also.
但我不會一直讓他付錢，我也會請他呀

（印尼-男）

I want to date a girl that can support me and I can support her. Not like I’m always supporting her or when there’s a special occasion, I’ll treat her.
我希望跟我女朋友是公平對待彼此，而不是都我出錢，但是在特別的日子當然我請客

But on the daily basis like everyday, every week date. Let’s just pay for ourselves.
但是一般的平常約會我們還是各付各的吧

（宏都拉斯-女）

So if I’ve been dating a guy and he insists paying on every date, maybe I’d allow him to on the first date, but I’d always like make sure he knows I can pay
如果跟我約會的男生每次都付錢，我可能只會讓他付第一次，但我也會讓他知道其實我也可以自己出錢的

and on the second date, we will obviously split down.
第二次約會開始我希望就各付各的

（薩爾瓦多-男2）

It’s common if it’s a first date, the guy would ask “Hey can I pay for you?”
通常第一次約會男生都會主動問可不可以請客

But if the girl that expects I pay for her every single time...no one likes it.
但是如果那個女生每次都以為我會付錢...我腦子有洞嗎？

If it’s my girlfriend, I’d try to invite her as much as I can.
但如果是我女朋友，我會盡量的請客

But like I have so much trust in her but if I don’t have enough money I will let her know she has to invite me.
但如果我哪天錢都花光了！我會讓她知道也該換她請我了

（韓國-女）

Few times is okay.
請個幾次沒關係

But I’d like to pay for our meal or movie or for example, it can be like you know, we go for a movie and then I buy popcorn.
但我會想要自己付飯錢或電影，不然就是他買電影票，我買爆米花

Also like I said, it’s very important to know how financially independent he is.
更重要的是要知道男生經濟狀況怎麼樣

He can afford it? or he can’t afford it, but he’s keep paying it and just not telling me how broke he is.
他付得起嗎？還是他付得很吃力？因為其實他根本沒錢

*So what would you guys do? Would you pay? Would you not pay?
所以你們大家會怎麼做呢？大方請客？各付各的？

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